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First Thoughts?

What gets your attention gets you.

Your thoughts precede your actions. The things you spend time thinking about will become behaviours and attitudes.

What are your first thoughts as you awake in the morning?
What do you think about in the shower?
What’s going through your brain as you eat breakfast (you DO have breakfast, don’t you)?
When you sit at the computer, what’s going on?

What’s your self-talk like? and your prayer life?

Now, how do these things reflect the quality of your life and your relationships?
Talk with your good friend/s about such things.

Seek the Truth. 

The Drama of Everyday Life

http://sivers.org/drama  - Interesting commentary from Kurt Vonnegut

He explained why people have such a need for drama in their life.

He said, “People have been hearing fantastic stories since time began. The problem is, they think life is supposed to be like the stories. Let’s look at a few examples.”

Our lives drifts along with normal things happening. Some ups, some downs, but nothing to go down in history about. Nothing so fantastic or terrible that it’ll be told for a thousand years.

“But because we grew up surrounded by big dramatic story arcs in books and movies, we think our lives are supposed to be filled with huge ups and downs! So people pretend there is drama where there is none.”

That’s why people invent fights. That’s why we’re drawn to sports. That’s why we act like everything that happens to us is such a big deal.

We’re trying to make our life into a fairy tale.

Don’t Medicate Christmas

Don’t Medicate With Alcohol and Drugs This Holiday Season!

Daniel G. Amen, MD, CEO, Amen Clinics, Inc.
www.amenclinics.com

Guess what the busiest month is in mental health treatment nationwide – January! Wonder why? For many, the holidays include a visit from “the ghost of Christmas past” who brings a tray full of unpleasant memories and unrealized expectations.

Sometimes we set ourselves up to fail during the holidays, thinking that for some magical reason this year will be different, when we’ve done nothing to change difficult family and relationship problems. It’s easy to slip into the “comfort zone” of overeating, isolating and abusing alcohol and drugs.

Unfortunately, the temporary relief provided by indulging wears off fast and leaves you feeling worse. And, the damage you do to your brain sets the stage for repeated failure. Here are a few things to consider as the holiday season approaches…

1. Alcohol and drug abuse damages the brain.

From the first scan I ordered on a patient with substance abuse problems, I saw very significant brain changes. A healthy scan shows full, even, symmetrical activity. Drug and alcohol abuse tended to cause overall decreased activity in the brain. These brains looked more aged, more shriveled, and more toxic than the brains of people who did not use drugs.

Heroin and heroin-like drugs, called opiates, caused severe decreased activity, as did much alcohol. Methamphetamines and cocaine tended to cause what looked like multiple holes or mini-strokes in the brain. Marijuana caused decreased activity in the frontal and temporal lobe areas (areas involved with memory and motivation).

All substance abuser brains did not look the same. Some people who have used drugs for a short time had horrible looking brains, while others, who used drugs for longer periods of time, had brains that did not look that bad. There must be genetic factors involved as well.

2. Alcohol and drug abuse is often a form of self medication (hot brains and cold brains).

One of the most powerful lessons we have learned from imaging is that many people who abuse substances are really trying to change their own brain chemistry. First, a word about what SPECT studies actually show us. We basically look for three things: areas of the brain that work well, areas of the brain that work too hard, and areas of the brain that do not work hard enough.

People with overactive brains, such as those with bipolar or manic-depressive disorder, anxiety disorders, certain forms of depression and obsessive compulsive disorder, tend to abuse substances that calm the brain down, such as marijuana, alcohol, or opiates.

People with under-active brains, such as those who have attention deficit disorder, tend to abuse stimulating drugs such as methamphetamine or cocaine. The drugs or alcohol make them feel better, so they continue to use, even though it has many other problems. It is essential to treat the underlying problems in order for them to heal from the substance abuse. Brain injuries are also involved in substance abuse in far greater numbers than most people realize.

3. The past is history and the future a mystery – let’s live today!

This can be a great time of year – I encourage you to take care of yourself, don’t overindulge in destructive behavior and don’t let your past destroy the present. Make new and positive holiday traditions, beginning this year! This year, be kind to yourself and your brain – it will make a difference for you and those you love!

To your brain health,
Daniel

Daniel G. Amen, MD
CEO, Amen Clinics, Inc.

www.amenclinics.com

Dismantling the Addiction Cycle

Dismantling the Addiction Cycle

Identify Triggers

Set Boundaries

  • Desire – You can have all the knowledge, skills and resources you need to get started , but if you don’t have desire, it ain’t happening.
  • Discipline – You have to discipline yourself to follow through. Yes, it’s hard, it’s painful. Yes, it takes you out of your comfort zone, but it’s also temporary. Studies have shown that it takes 21 consecutive days of repeated activity to form a habit. You just have to stick with it. Keep your eyes on the larger goal.
  • Delight – Benefits of the habit that you never knew existed suddenly materialise.  So many times, we give up too soon. We allow our feelings to dictate our actions.  Feelings follow actions, not the other way around. Develop momentum that makes the habit easy to continue.

Letting God in

Renouncing Baal and Ashteroth – false gods and beliefs

Healing and Freedom

Staying Free

  • Know your enemy and how he operates
    • Satan tries to get you feeling Discouraged, Disillusioned, Disappointed, Disconnected and Defeated.
  • Know the truth and maintain freedom – need God’s help
  • Build boundaries [walls] and guard gates
  • Be accountable – trusted others
  • Help your children and others

Remember

  • God loves you no matter where you are at.
  • Don’t believe the Devil’s lies. 
  • You have the righteousness of Christ and that you are God’s son.
  • What you DO can never change WHO YOU ARE in Him.
  • Build your walls and guard your gates. 
  • Go at the pace that the Holy Spirit establishes for you.

(C) Mark Whittaker, www.2Restore.wordpress.com, excerpt from seminar, Sept 2008.

Recommended Resources: www.wallbuilder2.wordpress.com; http://cavman.wordpress.com/2008/09/29/considering-addictions/

A Foundation of Love

A good Proverb (19:22):

What a person desires is unfailing love.

Perfect. No strings attached. Unconditional. Secure. Never-ending. Never-leaving.

We aim to attain, but this is where we need God.

Sex Addiction

Greetings all – from wintery Waikato, New Zealand,

A few brief notes on Sexual Addiction.

Sexual addiction is more about masking stress and shame than about sex. A form of self-medication for the pain in one’s life. In the words of James Brown: “I feel good…”

Masturbation on a repeated basis, with or without porn, is a common form of sex addiction.

The compulsion starts with curiosity and escalates until it consumes a person’s life – body, soul, and spirit.

Anger, loneliness, and confusion are common feelings for both addicts and their partners.

http://www.sexaddict.com/ – Douglas Weiss’ website – check out his books.

Help is available …

regards,
Mark

Addictions – ‘Think and Do’ Differently

Greetings everyone,

Been reading up more on Addictions:

Bondage doesn’t respond to common sense, logic, and clear thinking.

Alcoholics Anonymous calls such actions “insanity”, which they define as “continuing to do the same thing and expecting different results”.

- on page 27, “Freedom From Addiction”, by Neil Anderson (with M+J Quarles), Regal Books, 1996. [Read reviews at Amazon.com]

As Mike Riddell quotes in his “Living Wisdom” course:
“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got”.

The computer industry talk about: GIGO (Garbage in, garbage out).

Here’s some links that have some truths for you:

http://www.freedomfromaddiction.org/
http://www.freedomfromaddiction.org/truths.htm - more than a dozen articles **
http://www.freedomfromaddiction.org/Truths/answer.html

Living in the Truth,

Mark

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